Monday, August 4, 2008

What are the rules?

For a while I've been contemplating how to succinctly drill Mr. Intensity with our "family rules" or, code of honor - if you will.

But, first, I have to know what they are. *grin*

So, I've been mulling it over in my pea-sized brain. The Casteel family has posted theirs here. And I saw a glimpse of another family's here. Since I'm not getting very far I thought I'd solicit your help.
  • What are the non-negotiables at your house?
  • Do you have a list posted? (Doesn't Covey recommend they be visible?)
  • What values are important to you?


Shannon said...

I can not remember where I read this but we stole it and it has worked well for us...

Our rules are
Be Kind
Be Safe
Be Gentle

I made up several signs and they are posted in every room. When he breaks one of the I send him over to the rules to "read" them so he remember to follow them. Seems to work for the most part and being so open ended helps fit most situations!

MerrandaVK said...

You've got me thinking...

TERESA said...

Hi Julie thanks for visiting my site - loved the Google Reader recommendation. We don't have ours posted, but we say it together each morning before we start our day..."We are the Rowans. We work together, We play together, We learn together. I can't wait to see what this day brings our way." Corny, but it sums things up, and is easy for a 3year old to relate to and remember.

Anonymous said...

Hmmm.. a great thing to think about! I will get back to you on that.

Sunday said...

I don't have much time. Story of life at this phase. I'll try to sit down and email this afternoon. We just started a book by Clay Clarkson entitled "Our 24 Family Ways". We like the way it is broken down in the book. Google it. I know CBD carries it too. We like that this is a pretty straight forward list (in the book). It gets at the why you do things and backs it up with Scripture! I'll send more details later because you know the answer is never to "just get a book" but you have to sythesize that into your life as a family.

Gotta go for now. Just know that thinking and praying through this will give you a more purposeful approach to your parenting. Does it take away all your anger, angst and frustration? Why NO! But it helps to create unity between mom and dad, create expectations for kiddos, and give your crazy mind a place to begin from in the chaotic events that happen in family life.

Wow that got long!

Bye, friend, love you, miss you and wish we could go out for a Coke.


Julie said...

A mom told me once that whenever you ask your child to do something (or at least in her house) they are to do it
and completely

I have been using that with Eli... but need to think more on it.

AnniePat said...

we have one rule so far: "obey with a happy heart." i think it's excusable for a young child to need a reminder of expectations, but it should only take once, and then, "obey with a happy heart." i'm sure we'll be adding to it as rachel gets older!


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