Friday, March 8, 2013


The boy is cross eyed most of the time.  The intronets assures me that it will not always be this way.  Sometime before the fourth month his eyes should normalize.  Also before the fourth month he should stop crying.  Until then, I am wearing him a lot.  A friend let me borrow her "sleepy wrap" which is more comfortable than the Bjorn.  I was not a baby "wearer" before this baby but his crying will make a sane person do crazy things.  Note to self: wearing a 15 pound baby multiple hours a day after the age of 36 will make one tired and sore.
 He doesn't always cry.  Sometimes before 10am we see a smile.  Like last Saturday.
 I dressed him up for a "sip and see" that my BFF hosted at her house, 3 doors down.
Complete with china, linens and goblets.  HB is first class, y'all.
 Our babies are the same size, although hers is 7 months old.  Mine is 8 weeks old.  I can't post his picture until their adoption is complete.
I've had lots of people suggest things to help stop the crying but the only suggestion that's brought us relief is the book "Happiest Baby on the Block."  Actually my dear friend Erin went to the library and checked out the DVD for me and I watched it while nursing.  Changed my life.  If you know a mom with a colicky baby - get them the book or DVD.  The author, a pediatrician, shows you methods to calm a fussy baby.  His premise is that the first 3 months of a baby's life is an extension of the womb, making it the 4th trimester.  So we've gone back to swaddling, shushing and swinging this baby.  I had to go for back up for a blanket large enough to swaddle him.  But it works.  Especially the shushing.  I have a white noise app on my phone that gets amazing results.


mhutsell said...

I think that is brilliant advice. I think that helping a mother see the value of her presence (ie the wrap and keeping him bundled and close) is so key. We have so much of that "cry it out" mentality in our culture that we feel guilty if we have to say, "THIS baby needs me to hold him ALL THE TIME and I am okay with that." This baby is different. This baby has different needs. I might have to slow down and sacrifice some things (or A LOT) but that is okay. It's why I loved nursing my boys. It forced me to slow down. To hold them. To be connected PHYSICALLY. I wanted so badly for them to take bottles so I could have a break and God saw fit for that to not happen. SO I found myself bowing the knee for that first year and giving my all even when it felt like too much to give. It's still so hard, but I think being given "permission" to hold the baby and quiet the baby and see his unique bent already is HUGE. Way to go momma!

zanesmommy said...

Might want to see if you can borrow someones Ergo! Much better for us "older" mommas with big babies.

John and Pam Majors said...

What a sweet picture of him smiling on the party day!


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